I met up with a childhood friend of mine after ages yesterday, and she said something rather surprising. We were discussing a religious guy who has a girl he likes and is planning to marry, who doesn’t wear hijab. And my friend said that even the religious guys these days go for the obvious beauty rather than religiosity and other factors related to personality. This was new to me because the religious guys I‘ve talked to all look for hijabis (the fact that many of these guys haven’t been religious up to the point of marriage however, is a different story). My friend said that this has to do with being brought up as Muslims; as we’re not allowed to date and so on, guys go for beauty because well they’re guys.

More or less all the Bengali girls that I’ve seen or heard of getting married in recent years here in Sweden, are pretty. So empirical data suggests that the pretty girls get married first?

So… in essence… nothing really matters except for beauty in the eyes of Bengali men? You know, this is what I’ll be assuming until someone from that group comes and proves me wrong.

Oh and by the way you lot are ugly. No seriously… what we’re left with is – if we as girls choose to be that shallow as well – to choose the least ugly one.

Come on, argue with me. Prove me wrong. I’m inviting you to. Because if you don’t, then this is the presumption I’m going to go with from now on. And when aunties ask about marriage I’m gonna tell them your sons are disillusioned cave men. They’re not intellectual or sophisticated enough for me.

That is, until someone proves me wrong. Show me that there are exceptions to this rule. That not all Bengali guys are like this. Because if it is, if aesthetic pleasure is what it all boils down to, then marriage is not for me.